Attitude problem

[Dave A]

Do people with a bad attitude think they have an attitude problem?

[murdock]

why you picking on me on a friday dave?

ITS WEEKEND BABY...got so much to look froward to this weekend...machines are working in my workshop so i can make things...fellas are going fishing...this weekend is just gona be tooo short...i need about a 6 month weekend so i can catch up...

[IanF]

What is worse the bad attitude or the sickly sweet attitude. I get the urge to throttle the sickly sweet people I meet.
I must then have an attitude problem.

[wynn]

Does the plumbers taps leak? the cobblers kids shoes have holes in? of course they don't know they have BA

[Perform Computers]

Dave I've noticed that people who have a bad attitude, usually play it off on, "I don't have a bad attitude, I just don't take crap from anyone".

It's like asking, "Do insane people know they're insane?" I firmly believe, a bad attitude is a bad attitude. There are things that everyone knows, which is common sense and general good manners.

Like greeting someone, even if you mad at them. I believe no matter how mad you are, it's common decency to greet someone.

Always say thank you, & mean it. Certain people think things are owed to them. ( I refer to my post on that friend wanting work issue ).

Respect the elderly. This one goes without saying.

Now some people think they're above this, hence the bad attitude.

So in a nutshell, people with bad attitudes generally think they're "standing up for themselves".

[tec0]

I am fully aware of my attitude towards others. But that said it boils down to circumstance. If a person reflects a bad attitude towards me I will do the same, a person reflects a good attitude towards me I will do the same.

[gordo]

I agree with tec0, respect is earned, and i wont treat somebody with respect if they cant do the same for me!

[adrianh]

Do insane people know they're insane

This is a far more complex question than having a bad attitude.

Ok, things are never clear cut - define "A bad attitude"

My "Attitude" is very fluid and dependent on my mood. If I'm in a bad mood I will rip heads right off - I can take a lot of abuse when I'm in a good mood. (It is not a simple matter of saying one should do this or one should do that. We react instantaneously without thinking about it.)

There are character traits that some consider to be bad attitude but others consider it to be Assertive. I think it depends on the person with the attitude and the attitude of the person that is on the receiving side. A door to door salesman gets on my nerves for being overly pushy, yet he thinks it is the way to go, maybe he has learned to do it, or maybe it is his character.

There are no simple answers - do people that have a Bad Attitude know that they do - some do and some don't. A matter of nature vs nurture.

[ColinK]

I dont know,this is quite an interesting topic,i usaully intend to give respect first hand and be polite and nice and bla bla bla,but ive noticed 9 out of 10 times ppl take it for granted then speak to me as if they got balls and can talk anyway they want to,as if maybe they thought cuz im being so nice etc im a softy,this makes me very angry as would prob knock the living shit out of at least 8 of them but instead im just being nice...grrrrrr....makes me so upset

[Justloadit]

If a person reflects a bad attitude towards me I will do the same, a person reflects a good attitude towards me I will do the same.

So if you meet yourself, which attitude is it gonna be?

[rfnel]

I'll be the first to admit that my BS-tolerance can be low at times, but that is no excuse for treating others poorly. As for respect being earned; I'll treat people with respect as soon as I meet them, and I try to make a point of treating cleaners and receptionists with the same respect as CEO's - there is no need to earn my respect before I'll start treating you well. However, if someone proves that they're not worthy of respect, then respect goes out the door.

As Adrian pointed out, one needs to take character traits (and cultural differences) into account before concluding whether or not someone has a bad attitude. I conform to the programmer-stereotype in the sense of being introverted. Based on their own personalities, extroverts can sometimes assume that introverts are rude, simply because we don't talk all that much.

Lastly, there is no excuse for poor manners - 'please' and 'thank you' won't do any harm.

[Dave A]

Yeah - I expect most of us have those bad moments that we have second thoughts about shortly after. But my line of thought is more around behaviour that we think is OK, but in reality genuinely isn't as OK as we think it is.

What got me thinking about this was the rram episode (this link doesn't really reflect the whole episode - but regular members should still recall the run). The kid was literally yelling "I don't have an attitude problem", and yet rather clearly he did.

My thought was we wouldn't do what we do on a regular basis if we didn't think it's OK to do it - and that applies to near anything and anyone.

So how do we know when we're fundamentally off-track and really need to revisit our paradigm of ourself?

While still maintaining the levels of self-belief it takes to get ahead in this world?

[murdock]

my understanding is manners are taught to you when growing up...something missing in a lot of households...starts at the kitchen table...not a place where many families spend their time eating...shovel grub in front of tv seems to be the norm (generalising)

attitude is more like a chip on your shoulder feel like you been hard done by and the world owes you...like your parents bringing you into this world.

respect is something earned over a period of time...sometimes bullies mistakenly think they have respect instead they have fear and like the saying goes live by the gun die by the gun...a person who is a bully would be left standing when the kak hits the fan...a person who has earned respect would have people die for him...

gladiator a good example...that fool who stabbed him while going up in the lift had an attitude problem and was a bully.

i have been told i have an atitude problem...thats why i was ragging dave...i have also been told i am a pesimist and a lot of other things...i am working on it...i do believe people can change if steered in the right direction.

[Blurock]

If a person reflects a bad attitude towards me I will do the same, a person reflects a good attitude towards me I will do the same.

That is exactly the type of attitude that does more harm than good. It does not build relationships or improve conflict situations.

When you treat people with respect, they will eventually respond positively. Even when you are right, you can change the mood by reacting positively. You do not have to win every argument. You do not have to get revenge. Apply the Golden Rule: "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you."

Gandhi once said; "an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind".

[adrianh]

Attitudes change, perceptions change. I do not think that one should make a judgement based on one encounter. We all have bad days & good days, stresses and strains. I do agree with Blurock, the trick is to hold onto your own better attitude at all times (if you have such a thing) I for one, depending on my mood, could just strip! My own actions and reactions sometimes come as a surprise to me too (normally once I have insulted the other party so badly that they'll never speak to me again)...and yes, I know many blind people!