When is enough enough?

[tec0]

It has become increasingly easy for users to demonise someone and basically they will attack each and every post turning every conversation onto rant.

When is enough enough? I can no longer write freely I can no longer enjoy the forum and I believe that I am not just speaking for myself and if I am so be it. I think a lot of people would agree that there was a time where things where nice but not anymore.

If I am to blame then so be it ban me and get it over with. But we have to tolerate discrimination, hate speech and demoralizing debates each and every time we log on then I see no point in doing so.

These people will shoot down anything and everything always trying to provoke and I must say they are very successful at it. But why is it us that get silent and not them?

Clearly a decision was made and I guess if we don’t conform we will continue to be victimized to a degree that a letter like this is called for.

I am seriously done trying to fight against 3 or more individuals that just want to twist and make bad everything we write. Truth is freedom of speech and opinion is one thing but attacking someone outright to a degree that we have to resort to the same tactics is beyond my comprehension.

I am not here to fight everyday but they demand it and they don’t get warned or anything. So now I leave Admin with this letter. I may be the first but I will not be the only. There will be others that feel this beyond debate.

There are many examples that I am not going to list them all but I feel there is enough there to see who starts the fight. Yes I don’t tolerate discrimination or hate speech especially if people will go as far as to dehumanize someone. So I leave this in your hands... Ban me if you want things will go well for a while till they find the next person they don't agree with.

Do what you wish I am done.

[Dave A]

OK - here's a suggestion -

Try to post in any particular thread a maximum of twice a day.
I suspect you'll be surprised at the difference it will make.

[tec0]

I will reduce my frequency of posts and as well as new Thread to a minimum.

[HR Solutions]

Here's another suggestion - try to respect other peoples opinions or their knowledge.

[tec0]

Here's another suggestion - try to respect other peoples opinions or their knowledge.

You have done nothing to earn my respect.

Thank you very much. I am trying to narrow down exactly what I need. Is there a test that can pick up dyslexia ??

Yes they do Ian, and yes some do get past the starting blocks. But a lot of our work is done on a computer and an online package whereby you enter and work on candidates cv's on line, enter clients details etc, so they may have filled in a two page form correctly because they perhaps spent a few more minutes working on it, but then find out that she cannot spell correctly etc etc, either because she is rushed or they may be dyslexic etc etc. So I am trying to find an online test whereby we can try to pick theses things up earlier. have found some very basic ones which are not suitable because if you have half a brain cell for eg you can figure out the correct answers, so preferably need a test that can test Apptitude, dyslexia and IQ as well where we can test them at an interview stage.

[Dave A]

Here's another suggestion - try to respect other peoples opinions or their knowledge.

Trying to test tec0's willpower already?

EDIT: Oh dear

You can't expect help if you don't give help a chance...

[pmbguy]

I wonder what the common denominator is

[Citizen X]

OK - here's a suggestion -

Try to post in any particular thread a maximum of twice a day.
I suspect you'll be surprised at the difference it will make.

In fact please come and chill in the ‘old school music is cool thread,’ anytime you like. You’ll find it refreshingly different! And remember you get to decide to what post you want to respond to or simply let the passage of time(excuse the pun..it's the prescription thing!) let that post gather dust

You and you alone decide how you going to react. Noone can actually extort a reaction or response from you!

If you don't react to certain posts and simply do your thing and make your contribution then it's actually of no significant consequence that anybody else is indifferent.

There's so many different forum aspects to TFSA, i'm only beginning to explore them and I like what I see. Simply explore the so many other rooms in this big house, hell, I'm going to!


Abraham Lincoln said "A house divided against itself cannot stand." TFSA is one house, it’s one organisation that you are all members of. Use the tools at your disposal that TFSA offers to make whatever meaningful contribution you wish you make, and I personally know that you can make a great contribution as you have always been doing.

[desA]

Why not set up a specific thread each day, to let off steam. With Dave's permission, of course.

Example :

The rant at hijacking of SA's new school education system thread?

People start a thread, hoping to extract good ideas & engage others of like mind in doing so.
A few decent posts - the rest degrades into a mine's longer than yours contest.
Blah.. blah... blah...
Some folks have absolutely no manners
Blah.. blah... blah...
Kicked the dog, he bit me back
Blah... blah... blah...
Too bad that SA's next generations will end up eating sand.
Blah... blah... blah...

Feel so much better now!!!

[HR Solutions]

I wonder how he came to the conclusion our tests had anything to do with him .....?????

[adrianh]

Even better, have a special thread dedicated to whinging and whining about how unfair life is. About how one has no choices, no control and no responsibility for ones own lot in life. One could also talk about how terrible government / schooling / education / employers / labour brokers / HR consultants / men / women / ag sommer alles... is. One could then add an ancillary discussion about how terrible all the participants taking part in the discussion are, how insensitive they are and how stupid they are. The ancillary discussion should only focus on the individuals and on nothing else.

We could also have treads dedicated to agreeing with whatever the "master plan" is:

(The rant at hijacking of SA's new school education system thread?
People start a thread, hoping to extract good ideas & engage others of like mind in doing so.)

I mean really, why would one want to hear views that are different to the "master plan" view. Lets all agree to whatever is said and not think about other sides of the coin. We could design a rocket ship to go to Saturn while we're at it and not worry to much about real world issues.

Aye, I'm game, let's go for it, I'll tie one hand behind my back and stand on one leg while we all "agree and chant around the bonfire" ...oh sorry..."debate"

[Dave A]

I wonder what the common denominator is

I suggest basically this -

tec0 - you seriously need to get in touch with reality.

The reality is this...

Essentially a failure to seriously allow for all the other realities out there that differ significantly from your own. The problem is aggravated when the protagonists become so fixated and post at such a rate, they don't allow the time for others to introduce more perspective to the discussion.

Individuals slowing down their post rate in a thread where they're becoming... overly engaged... will make a difference - it'll allow a broader perspective a chance to pop up and sink in.

Hence my appeal to slow down when you're getting caught up in the heat of the moment, which is certainly a lot easier to actually execute than another solution, being don't take criticism personally (which I entirely understand is not easy at times).

[pmbguy]

Dave - as Diplomatic and Correct as always

[HR Solutions]

Yep ....... But not always the solution. But anyway. ......

[adrianh]

You know, I teach my girls many things, a couple spring to mind;
1. There will always be somebody in life that tries to get the better of you. You need to choose your battles and be certain that the battle serves to win the war, otherwise it is just a waste of energy.
2. Some people love to poke you with a stick just to get a reaction, you choose to react, nobody forces you. If you don't react they lose interest and go elsewhere.
3. You need to choose whose opinions you value, many people say many things and most of it is just noise, you cannot allow your life to be ruled by noise.
4. When somebody is nasty to you you've got to learn how to deal with it yourself, we are not always at your side to take care of it. You are growing up to be adults, take responsibilty and stand on your own two feet.
5. Learn the following adage and apply it throughout your life 'stick and stones may break my bones but words can never harm me'