Avoid having serious motor vehicle accidents.

[adrianh]

The content is made up by the members, create the kind of content you and others might want to see. You are a smart lad, dont let other content cloud your thoughts.

Thank you. You are right of course. The problem with blind avoidance is that one inadvertently avoids all the good due to avoiding perceived bad.

I belong to many groups and forums on social media and I see 95% of people in the groups and forums (including myself) reach a point where they eventually totally abstain from interacting for various reasons.

That said; the takeaway from what you said is that one can choose to read a good book / write a good book or get annoyed with the bookshop and stay home. Maybe one should go to the bookshop and avert your eyes when the topic on the shelf creates distress.

Anyhow, you make me think :-)

[Dave A]

The real trick is not to get stressed when someone has a different point of view to yours, and being careful not to be too dogmatic about your own point of view.
And focus on issues rather than playing the person. (In particular calling them names or being derogatory of their point of view).

People tend to have valid reasons for their point of view which is based on their own experience (with exceptions, of course - but in time this becomes obvious).

I tend to disagree with Derlyn some in respect of the general attitude in the posts nowadays. My view is there has been a lot more tolerance and waaay less personal attacks in recent times. Can't remember the last time someone lost their cool here....