I would like to comment on observations I have made in my lifetime, so the following is simply my opinion. This sounds like a typical case of someone that wants to reach success but fears reaching it. It is something that I have learned is often the case if a person that is highly intelligent and they know they can easily accomplish the task. The problem here is quite often motivation.
The problem is identifying what the person fears the most that will motivate them to go as far as to take the step into the right direction.
These people often are unaware of their fears and the fears are normally subconscious. So asking them about it will often not work. They make excuses in their minds of why they do not have the time for succeeding or simply why they will fail. The fact is that they made a decision to fail, the problem is proving it to them.
My suggestion is this, make him work on his excuses and then take a piece of paper and let him write it down. Every single excuse of why he made the decision to fail. He will probably argue that he didn't make the decision but ignore that and keep on hammering on it that he made a decision to fail. He then needs to compile a list of why he will succeed.
So in short he needs to divide a piece of paper into 2 columns. Excuses he use to ensure that he fails opposed to a list of why he can succeed. E.g. If one of the reasons is that he will fail to provide his other half with some tlc the other side would be that he will be able to provide her with much better/quality of TLC if reaches success. This needs to be true off course.
He then needs to create a list of how success will destroy his life compared to how it will improve his life. Off course, this will be a difficult one to do, but he HAS to write reasons for the first one.
The effect of this should be that he exposes his excuses to himself as not being the truth, but infact lies that are destroying his future. He needs to write it and make it his own. He needs to take responsibility for his actions.
I once seen this work with an employee. Most of us simply couldn't understand what his problem was and just categorized him as lazy and immature. However a final attempt using this technique seems to have worked.
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