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Dragon - you haven't answered my question ?
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I was working at home one night at about 11pm. My house is very close to the N1 highway. A guy knocked and explained to me that he had broken down in his bakkie and that he managed to find somebody who would tow him to the harbour so that he could deliver his fish and he would then leave the bakkie there and the guy would then take him home. He needed R200 and promised high and low that he would bring the money back the following day. He was white and really looked the part. He wasn't drinking and he didn't have the usual tik-kop apperance (their faces deteriorate very quickly). Anyhow, I gave him the money and he left. He came back about an hour later and said that the guy arrived and that the guy said that it was R200 one way and that the guy would only help him for a further R200. Like I said, he was very convincing. I scratched around and found another R200 and gave it to him. When I went to bed I told my wife about it and she immediately told me that I got scammed. I said that maybe she was right and I hope that he brings the money back but that I was willing to take the loss because I felt that it was the right thing to do. Ne never returned.
If I were to do it over again I suppose I would probably do the same. I have a soft spot for people in trouble and I try to help when I am able to. My aunt taught me something many years ago and it is this: you do what you feel is right whether other people appreciate it or not. The fact that you got scammed by one person doesn't mean that you should stop caring, it just means that you should consider your help to be a gift to them rather than a loan.Comment
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Jeez Adrian you sound like a old church grannyIt is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change. – Charles DarwinComment
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Just saying...I mean I would have been extremely angry that I got scammed...I certainly would not have thought of it as a gift to him.It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change. – Charles DarwinComment
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Its about getting over the negative thinking, lets you get on with your day, and allows you to still trust humanity.
It could very well be that the intention was to return the money, but he may not have the means to do so, or alternatively, he could not find the house in the daytime, or to be very dramatic, he died on the way to you with your money in his hand
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Victor - Knowledge is a blessing or a curse, your current circumstances make you decide!
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I prefer to think that he died tragically saving a child from being run over. The money then flouted down a stream and was found by a homeless man that was about to commit suicide, he changed his mind thinking that God must be looking out for him. He intern started going to church. One day the church caught fire and he noticed it in time as he was given lodging in a outbuilding. The church was saved and ..........(Many more beautiful things)
I would probably also have been caught by his scam. I think that its good to help people even if it means you get screwed sometimes. But I would still be angry at the chap and pray that he gets syphilis - if indeed he was a scamsterIt is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change. – Charles DarwinComment
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Exactly.Its about getting over the negative thinking, lets you get on with your day, and allows you to still trust humanity.
It could very well be that the intention was to return the money, but he may not have the means to do so, or alternatively, he could not find the house in the daytime, or to be very dramatic, he died on the way to you with your money in his hand.
It's not that I want to sound like an old granny, it is that I do not wish to waste mental energy on being angry or dwelling on the subject. I knowingly took a risk and I lost...it's just like playing poker, you can't be sour with your opponents if you bet and lost, nobody forced you to.
The reason people feel terribly done in when they get scammed is because they feel stupid for getting duped. That feeling is expressed by making the other person look bad.
I suppose that I see things in an arse about face way because I see the ingenuity in the scams and how gullible we actually are. People lose millions because they get scammed by all sorts of business deals and investments, why, because of their own naivety. I got screwed over and screwed myself over so many times that I lost count long ago, but hey, it taught me not to gamble with money I can't afford to lose.
This is why I say f*ck it, I risked R400 and I lost it, I could have lost it playing poker, it's simply my own stupidity and my own gullibility.Comment
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"XYZ is a BIG ripoff !!!"
I do not have a problem with it as it was just an example. But if it appears all over google without context I wil have a problem with it.Last edited by Houses4Rent; 18-Jul-14, 09:42 AM.Houses4Rent
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I would not open my door/gate at 23h00 to a stranger. Was the alleged backkie and tower in sight?
What a cheek to come back for more. Why did he not simply sell some fish to pay the return trip?
When he said 'fish' you should have taken the cue that something is fishy...Houses4Rent
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i think so.Comment
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HI
Adrianh
yes that is exactly how i feel... so weary to trust, in this case i was a huge fool as i went souly on trust, and i can say that this would be the last i buy online... I am glad you now understand where i come from,
and the person that scammed you, sould you not agree that if you can help the next person avoid being scammed by that person you should warm ppl out there..?Comment
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perhaps but i am 100% sure it was a plain scammer.
and i am one of those people that would rather warn everyone so that they can save themselves where i did not.
since i do not do online banking, i did not know one should not do eft's to credit accounts...
owe;l lesson well learnt...
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i think im more upset with myself, my stupidity allowed myself to trust him,
but yes, if i can prevent someone from getting scammed, that matters now,Comment
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