Why family businesses fail

**adrianh** · 13-Nov-13, 05:40 PM

@pmbguy - I don't think a psychologist will cope, the psychiatrist just shakes his head. The only thing to do is to get a merchant in Mitchell's Plein.

@HR - I don't think it is viable to get a professional PA. I really need a "gofer"

**adrianh** · 13-Nov-13, 05:41 PM

Originally Posted by roryf

LOL,food manufacturing.

Ventilation?

**pmbguy** · 13-Nov-13, 06:10 PM

Yes just a "gofer", there are lots of young people looking for any employment. Synchronised Diary, taking-making calls, errands, reminders, dictations, coffee etc etc. Basically an extension of yourself to keep you on Track and on time. Which will make you more efficient, making your business more efficient with will lead to a happy you and by-proxy a happy wife.

**adrianh** · 13-Nov-13, 07:14 PM

Exactly!

The problem with getting a gofer is that I don't want a dumba$$. I want a person that is somewhat hyperactive, like myself, and that is able to think on their feet. Again, I am willing to tech such a person a hell of a lot of things if they are keen.

I just don't think that I will be able to deal with a person who is unable to deal with my quirks. A bit of a catch 22 if you ask me, I need a person who can get things done yet is also a bit crazy...

**Leonp** · 22-Jul-14, 01:25 PM

i think your wife sounds a bit immature/insecure. Maybe she feels your are more interested in the business than in her.

My advise to you is to let her start her own business with its own responsibilities and potential income. it will keep her busy and focused and you can get a full time PA. on the other hand, as you state in your last post: "I just don't think that I will be able to deal with a person who is unable to deal with my quirks. A bit of a catch 22 if you ask me, I need a person who can get things done yet is also a bit crazy" . it may be that we need to hear your wife's side of the story. :-)

**pmbguy** · 22-Jul-14, 02:31 PM

Originally Posted by Leonp

i think your wife sounds a bit immature/insecure

Oh dear, Adrain what time does your wife usually log on?

**Dave A** · 22-Jul-14, 09:14 PM

Originally Posted by Leonp

it may be that we need to hear your wife's side of the story. :-)

That could get interesting too.

**adrianh** · 23-Jul-14, 08:25 AM

My wife and I now work like clockwork together. We had numerous discussions and decided who does exactly what. She handles all financial matters and administrative matters, I handle all technical matters and we do planning together. We sit every morning to see where we are at, what we've done and what we need to do. Its quite amazing what can be accomplished when each person focuses on their strengths and leaves the other person to get on with it. A lot has happened on a personal level too, I stopped my $hit a couple of months back and made a decision to commit myself to the smooth operation of the business and the family. I have a great wife and a pair of beautiful teenage daughters and I'm not going to f*ck that up because I am unwilling to change. I suppose this all sounds like rubbish but its not, I realized that I have way more to lose than to gain by refusing to find ways to bring balance to the situation.

Anyway, all's well, the business is getting better, the family is closer and we are al for more tolerant and respectful towards one another. It took a lot of introspection to realize exactly how good the three of them really are for me and the fact that nobody else would stand for the way the kokkeroaches run amuck in my brain most of the time!

**Blurock** · 23-Jul-14, 09:16 AM

Originally Posted by adrianh

I stopped my $hit a couple of months back and made a decision to commit myself to the smooth operation of the business and the family. I have a great wife and a pair of beautiful teenage daughters and I'm not going to f*ck that up because I am unwilling to change. !

We don't value the good things we have until we lose it...