Your Opinion on Meetings?

[Mark Atkinson]

I'm planning on writing a short (hopefully) blog post on this topic and thought I'd get a discussion going here.

What are your sentiments regarding meeting with:

A - Prospective clients and,
B - Current clients

My personal opinion is that meetings are a waste of time 95% of the time, in my industry anyway.

My reasons for this are many:

1. An average meeting takes up to 2 hours of my time sitting in the meeting. It takes, on average, 1 hour in the car to get to the meeting place. So before you even realise it, that's 3 hours of my day gone. I bill out to clients at a minimum of R400, so that's potentially R1200 down the drain to meet with a person that may or may not become a client. Double if my partner attends the meeting too. (Assuming we're meeting a prospective client)

2. Prospective clients are often just surveying the field and don't really know what they want. When meeting such a person, the odds of us converting him/her into a client are usually very low.

3. I find that I am subjected to age bias if somebody meets me before we do the work. Sounds silly, but it happens a lot and it's very different to the reaction once you've done the work already and the client learns your age then.

4. I'm going to ask the person to compile a written brief anyway. The entire team has input on any particular project and I like to clear different aspects with different people before I accept any projects. As developing a website is usually a lengthy sort of process, it's important that we have a written document as reference.

5. I don't believe there's anything that can be said in a meeting that can't be said electronically. If I'm consulting on SEO etc then that's another story, but even then Skype is often just as appropriate.

6. We are generally booked up 1-2 months in advance by clients who are well prepared and know what they want. People who love to hold copious meetings are more often than not not very organised or sure of what they want.
While I understand it's necessary for meetings in many professions (electricians, aircon installers etc) I feel that if you're running an online business, your dealings should be primarily online.

I've had a client ask me to drive to Umhlanga (40 mins drive) to ask me literally 2 questions that could have been asked via the telephone. Meeting lasted a grand total of 5 minutes. When I'm deciding whether to take on a project or not, that sort of thing tends to tip the scales in the direction of not.

Interestingly enough, a long established and reasonably large name in the SA web design industry refuses meetings right from the outset and clearly states this on their website. Not only that, they don't provide a phone number and insist on email communication.

While this is something I would personally LOVE to do, I'm not sure that I would, even if only in the interest of great customer service.

Would really love to hear your thoughts on the matter. If you were me, would you stop having meetings? Would you stop taking phone calls? (Can also be a major disruption to your work flow)

Are you somebody who prefers meetings? Why?

[IanF]

Mark
I would offer the "customer" a choice.
Site meeting R1000 and say it is a 1 hour meeting plus travel time.
Or a skype/telephone marketing meeting is free.
Sometimes customers will then visit you and I wouldn't charge for that.

[CLIVE-TRIANGLE]

Mark, I have a particular client who is big on meetings. I have made a habit of requesting an agenda ... some meetings quickly vanished.

Most recently one of the directors' pa contacted me for a meeting; before the request could be fully developed I threw in "sure, they know where my office is and they are always, welcome, no appointment required". And that was that.

I guess it largely depends on what type of business one is in.

[Blurock]

I suppose it depends on the industry. In your case a client signs up for a deal, there is an SLA in place and the only time you require any communication is when things start going wrong.

In the retail industry buyers are not loyal and may switch suppliers on a daily basis. In that case it is important to build long term relationships that can keep the opposition out. I have never been great on golf and sitting in a pub, but for some businesses that is what needs to be done.

[Dave A]

I'm casting my mind back to the meeting I had with Mark prior to appointing him to do the design and core deployment of one of my company websites...

1. I honestly think if I had to go to the trouble of speccing what I wanted done by email, I wouldn't have offered the job to a local developer - I would have put it up for bid on eLance. It probably wouldn't have been as slick as Mark's job (Red Giant definitely has some serious talent on board), but it would have been quite adequate to my needs. Ultimately it wasn't the styling skills that I called him in for anyway - it was actually speed. We weren't going to get this job done quick enough for my liking if I kept it in-house and the basic deployment part was holding up other, far more mission critical IT development. So I decided to outsource it. The fact that I was confident in you (1) and the talent in Red Giant (2) merely made me happy to pay the price (hard truth, it would have cost less than half that using eLance, albeit for something not as slick as conceded previously).

2. Mark, your youthful looks are not a problem. Frankly in the IT game youth is no surprise at all. It may even be an asset.

And then a second case, involving an organisation based in Pretoria I'm on the board of...

We wanted something very specific available as an online service.
A spec of what we wanted was drawn up.
The CEO knew exactly what was wanted and was in charge of procuring proposals from web product developers such as yourself.
The board was presented with three proposal bids.
One bidder made a 10 minute presentation, took some questions and hung around another 15 minutes for tea and idle chit chat / informal answering of questions.
The two other bidders didn't make the meeting.

When the board meeting resumed, we chatted about the comparitive prices (the guys who turned up were the most expensive) and the importance of the project itself.
And awarded the contract to the guys that turned up to pitch themselves.
Ultimately we weren't judging on technical skill or plan, we were judging on our perception of how much we could rely on whomever we gave the contract.

R25k initial development fee. R6k a month maintenance fee for 24 months (and it's not going anywhere else after that as long as they don't screw up - which so far they haven't).

Is that worth risking 3 hours (max) for?

If you want to keep meetings tight, start off by saying you have another meeting to get to shortly - it makes it easy to keep things on point, or make a polite exit if it comes to that.

In terms of connecting (which is the real power of person to person meetings), the first 30 seconds really do count the most.

And some persistence (but that's another story).

You might have to pick which meetings you take one day, but if you're not at that point already, just take the bl**dy meeting.

[Mark Atkinson]

Dave, I think your post requires it's own reply.

I'm casting my mind back to the meeting I had with Mark prior to appointing him to do the design and core deployment of one of my company websites...

1. I honestly think if I had to go to the trouble of speccing what I wanted done by email, I wouldn't have offered the job to a local developer - I would have put it up for bid on eLance. It probably wouldn't have been as slick as Mark's job (Red Giant definitely has some serious talent on board), but it would have been quite adequate to my needs. Ultimately it wasn't the styling skills that I called him in for anyway - it was actually speed. We weren't going to get this job done quick enough for my liking if I kept it in-house and the basic deployment part was holding up other, far more mission critical IT development. So I decided to outsource it. The fact that I was confident in you (1) and the talent in Red Giant (2) merely made me happy to pay the price (hard truth, it would have cost less than half that using eLance, albeit for something not as slick as conceded previously).

I actually anticipated you bringing our meeting up in this thread. It is one of the instances in which a project has gone well for us as a result of having meetings.

To be completely honest, while I'm glad you found our work to be of a decent quality, I'm pretty sure that if we had to do it again, we would do it somewhat differently. A lot has been learned since then - come to think of it, we (I) may have actually misinterpreted your initial requirements. If you ever do want a do-over, my offer to do it on the house still stands. We have a hard time accepting previous work of ours that we don't consider to be out of our top drawer and have already revisited old projects simply because of that fact. Guess it's more pride than anything.

Regarding eLance, no argument there. We don't, and will never, try to compete on price with them. Customer service has always been the thing that we've tried to focus on first and foremost (hopefully successfully). I guess that almost answers my own questions/concerns regarding meetings.

2. Mark, your youthful looks are not a problem. Frankly in the IT game youth is no surprise at all. It may even be an asset.

In this instance I think subjectivity may have gotten the better of you. It definitely wasn't an issue with you and isn't with many of our other clients (because expertise should and often does trump age) but I have, on more than one occasion, received negative reactions centred around my age. Just recently we lost a potential project and I'm 99% sure it was because the client's initial impression when meeting me was "too young to be good at what he does." In all fairness I'm not at all upset that we lost that particular job.

And then a second case, involving an organisation based in Pretoria I'm on the board of...

We wanted something very specific available as an online service.
A spec of what we wanted was drawn up.
The CEO knew exactly what was wanted and was in charge of procuring proposals from web product developers such as yourself.
The board was presented with three proposal bids.
One bidder made a 10 minute presentation, took some questions and hung around another 15 minutes for tea and idle chit chat / informal answering of questions.
The two other bidders didn't make the meeting.

When the board meeting resumed, we chatted about the comparitive prices (the guys who turned up were the most expensive) and the importance of the project itself.
And awarded the contract to the guys that turned up to pitch themselves.
Ultimately we weren't judging on technical skill or plan, we were judging on our perception of how much we could rely on whomever we gave the contract.

R25k initial development fee. R6k a month maintenance fee for 24 months (and it's not going anywhere else after that as long as they don't screw up - which so far they haven't).

Is that worth risking 3 hours (max) for?

You indirectly bring up a very valid point here. Now that I consider it, I don't think we would have won many of the larger projects we have now without having met with decision makers in the entity. One of our clients currently brings in almost R10k per month for us with no signs of slowing up and we wouldn't have landed that client had I not met him in the first place. (Funny story: That client actually bargained us down on his initial website + branding first up. He's now paid that fee many times over )

If you want to keep meetings tight, start off by saying you have another meeting to get to shortly - it makes it easy to keep things on point, or make a polite exit if it comes to that.

In terms of connecting (which is the real power of person to person meetings), the first 30 seconds really do count the most.

And some persistence (but that's another story).

You might have to pick which meetings you take one day, but if you're not at that point already, just take the bl**dy meeting.

No arguments there. I think I agree with you mostly.

I'm almost certain that the reason meetings go on so long is largely my own fault. I tend to be very comprehensive (verbose) when talking about my field(s) of "expertise." Call it passion, call it nervousness, call it trying to land a project - I'm not sure what the reason may be, exactly, but I do talk, a lot. And in case you haven't noticed by now, I type a lot too.

[Dave A]

In this instance I think subjectivity may have gotten the better of you.

I didn't expect you to agree with me on this one. You wouldn't have raised it as a problem the way you did if you didn't believe it was real.

At best all I can hope for is that you revisit this particular paradigm of yours and consider the possibility that I might be right.

[Chrisjan B]

I didn't expect you to agree with me on this one. You wouldn't have raised it as a problem the way you did if you didn't believe it was real.

At best all I can hope for is that you revisit this particular paradigm of yours and consider the possibility that I might be right.

Mark - don't be your own best enemy....

[Mark Atkinson]

I didn't expect you to agree with me on this one. You wouldn't have raised it as a problem the way you did if you didn't believe it was real.

At best all I can hope for is that you revisit this particular paradigm of yours and consider the possibility that I might be right.

Fair enough.

I'm just curious as to why you seem to be so adamant that ageism isn't a real thing?

I'm completely open to a paradigm shift and I'm not in the least bit concerned if some people do deal with me differently based on my age. Perhaps the way I put it, it came across as something I'm worried about. I'm really not.

Having started at my first business at 14, I revel in the opportunity to surprise people. I'm fully confident in my ability to show enough expertise, despite my age, to make my clients feel comfortable in our skills and knowledge. My only point is that despite that I have, on occasion, received the impression that people were surprised by my age. I've also been told outright by a (one) potential client that they would prefer to look for somebody older.

My thoughts on this matter are that 98% of potential clients are comfortable with my age and demeanour, why should I be worried about the 2% that are not? It's not something that concerns me, it's just something that I believe to be real. (And was even more so when I was under 20)

Dave, the impression I get is that you're saying that if I conducted myself differently (confidence, approach, etc) when meeting people, that I wouldn't ever experience this issue? I'm just interested in why, even though it's not an issue in your mind, you are so sure that it's not something that does happen?

This thread is a little off topic now, but hey, it's all in the spirit of self-improvement and healthy debate.

[Dave A]

Objections are like onions - you've got to peel away the layers to get to the core reason. Solve the core reason and all the layers above it disappear.

I'm just curious as to why you seem to be so adamant that ageism isn't a real thing?

I'm not saying it doesn't exist - I'm saying it's not a problem.

Ageism is not really about age at all, it's a question about your experience and reliability.

Experience and reliability is just one of the many variants of the "can I trust you with this" question every client is subconciously processing in their head.

I never knew this when I started out, but I also didn't expect my age to be a problem when I started out in business. (Yes, once upon a time I was a very young business owner too, significantly younger than any of my peers). In fact I saw my youth as an advantage.

And I've just deleted the rest of what I had typed up for this post. It's a big subject full of nuance which just hasn't come out very well trying to communicate via text.

Anyway, there's the core of it - in two parts:

• The analytical answer to the underlying psychology, and
• Been there myself.