One of my friends needs advice:

"hi I need some advise, my husband divorced his first wife, he has two kids with her (both 8 years old), they stay by her but she is never home and leaves them with granny, she says in the house and he pays her rent to keep the kids safe and close to him and his parents. he pays the school fees, medical aid, R3000 maintenance, all clothes and school clothes, any extra bills, but she will not give up. we can't get through financaily. she works but will not pay towards anything, she threatens him with court perminatly. I would like to know is it better to let her take him to court and then fight to decrease maintenance or for him to take her to court first to decrease maintenance."

Can anyone assist with some advice please
After advice has been given would it be possible for the moderator to please delete it.

Thank You